…always me

I may not always be perfect but I’m always me.

I disliked this quote the first time I heard it not because it doesn’t make sense but because people tend to twist things or only see things in the way that favours them. 

The true meaning of the quote is that obviously no one is perfect but one has to always be true to oneself. Being true to yourself takes courage. It requires you to be introspective, sincere, open-minded and fair. It does not mean you are inconsiderate or disrespectful of others. It means you will not let others define you.

Now let’s go to the twisted version. It means no matter what has happened, you should be unapologetic about it. Be however you are without giving a second thought.

How will you do something wrong or act in a certain type of way and instead of you to do better or try not to do same thing you open your mouth and declare: “I may not always be perfect but I’m always me”.

Don’t be stuck up on one place claiming “This is who I am”. 

I’ve seen many people hide behind “this is how I am”, “this is how I was made”, “na like this them born me”, I’m not going to change who I am.  

Lets pause first: WHO ARE YOU? (in five seconds mention your name, in another 15 seconds describe YOU in 5 words)

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Are you done? Great let’s continue. As you mentioned your name or described yourself did you mention God? Oh you didn’t abi? So you’re not God?  I thought so. As long as you’re not THE ANCIENT OF DAYS, you can change so you need to calm down.

One way or the other how you are affects your relations with people. Don’t forget that you can’t be an island.

Take for example you’re driving your car and the car develops a fault. Will you continue driving the car and say “This car may not be perfect, but it’s mine so I’ll continue driving it?”. Won’t you find a way to repair the car? Think about it. Let’s take another example, you’re travelling by road, you realise that the path you started on is wrong or its really bad, what will you do? Won’t you find an alternative route? Do you remain or continue in that path because that’s the path you’ve chosen? That will just be bad for you because you won’t get to where your going. So whenever you think of quoting “I may not always be perfect but I’m always me” because you’ve been accused of something or you did something wrong, you sound really silly. The same way you repair, repaint, fix, arrange certain things, that’s how you ought to arrange yourself. 

You’re on this journey of life and so you’re definitely going to develop faults on the way, you’re definitely going to miss some tracks, you’re definitely going to trod on the wrong path and you’ll have to reverse or make U-turns. Are you going to sit in the same spot or remain in the wrong direction that you’re headed simply because you can’t accept that you’re on the wrong path? Or are you going to accept you’re on the wrong path and still remain there with the excuse of “oh this is where I am”.

Change is a constant thing. You can’t remain a certain way, you either get better or you get worse but you can never remain the same. What you should concern yourself with is how to be a better version of yourself. I said a better version of yourself, not a better version of any other person. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should change who you are. I’m simply saying this version of you that is currently available, is it the best version? Version 5.0 that needs no upgrading? Think about it.

You shouldn’t have the notion in your head that anything anybody says about you is trash, you don’t care, you don’t mind them. Calm down, I’m not saying get yourself fixated on what people think about you or beat yourself up about what people say about you, I’m simply saying some of the things said to you are not coming from a malicious or false place. Some of them are actually things that you need to check on and do better. It only makes you a better human and helps you relate better with people.

You can always be better. You can always do more.


1. I COME WITH FLAWS, BUT I’M ALWAYS WORKING ON THEM.


I won’t always meet everyone’s standards, but I’m always going to build upon and grow the ways I’m not perfect and remember that I’m only human. You might not see the ways that I’m beautiful and choose to focus on the ways in which I need work, but that’s OK, because the only person that should really care about what I need to improve on is myself. I’ll own my flaws and I’ll always strive to be better, even if it means doing it alone.

2. I’VE ACCEPTED MY WEAKNESSES, AND THAT MAKES ME STRONG.


I’ll own every fault and I’ll embrace every part of myself that doesn’t operate smoothly, because I know that the challenges in life only make me stronger in the end. I’m never going to be perfect, but the more someone knocks on my imperfections, the more my weaknesses become strengths, because I’m learning to better accept myself.

3. I’LL SAY MEAN THINGS, BUT I’LL ALWAYS APOLOGIZE.

I’m not always going to say the right things, and sometimes I might be downright insensitive and speak without thinking. I might hurt someone’s feelings or bruise some egos, but I’ll always apologize and I’ll learn from my mistakes.

4. I’LL FAIL CONSTANTLY, BUT I’LL ALWAYS KEEP TRYING.

I’ll never give up, no matter how many times I fail. I’m not perfect. It’ll be OK that I’m flawed because that’s what makes me a work of art. Even the most perfect paintings can be boring. Sometimes it’s the true colors and the inconsistencies that make masterpieces.


Let me leave you with this :

Don’t let your excuse for acting a certain way be that somebody did this or somebody did that. In the end, you’re responsible for your actions. You should be in control of your actions and reactions. Let it not always be “oh, this person said this to me,” “She did this to me,” “He said that to me.” A lot of people are going to say a lot of things to you but you can’t react badly and now blame it on the fact that the person acted a certain way and that’s what brought about your reaction. Your reaction to things should be a reflection of who you are. You’re solely responsible for your actions and reactions.

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N. B 

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21 thoughts on “…always me

  1. I like the fact that you are engaging and making we the readers relate.

    Well, so many people use that phrase because they just want to be an asshole. I personally think that it’s just a legal excuse for being a terrible person.

    Well I know better today 🙂

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    1. I’m glad you can relate to my post. What’s the essence of an unrelatable post.
      Thank you for your comment and I totally agree with you, people just use the quote as an excuse.

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  2. Really insightful, I saw something in a different light and definitely would agree to that.. Yeah, people say stuffs about other people but sometimes we just have to take a step back and think on what was said and either use it to our advantage or discard it. Beautiful piece Obort 💕

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